My passion is helping women become mothers--no matter what it takes!
I’m Sarah Kowalski, Single Mom by Choice, Fertility Doula, Life Coach and author. I coach women who are struggling to conceive a child when it's not taking shape as planned -- either because of the lack of a partner or fertility issues.
My own arduous path to motherhood, inspired me to combine my expertise as a life coach, lawyer and patient's right's advocate with my passion for teaching mind body practices such as Feldenkrais and Qigong. Through this unique blend of training and experience, I help women quiet the voice of doubt and redefine what it means to be a mother so they can embrace their unique path to motherhood.
I work with women who are not afraid to take a deep dive emotionally, spiritually and somatically to cultivate clarity, insight and courage even when life isn't unfolding as planned.
Much like a birth doula who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to the mother before, during and just after birth, I am your guide, confidant, educator, sounding board, mentor, emotional rock, and research partner as you navigate becoming and being a mother.
Through my one on one coaching, support groups, and child birth education classes, I help you put down the fairy tales, lessen your anxiety and open to your own unique path to motherhood so you can proudly embrace an unconventional path.
My work has been featured in Harper's Bazaar, Scary Mommy, PopSugar, First For Women, ESME.com (Empowering Solo Moms Everywhere), One Bad Mother Podcast, Red Tricycle, Huffington Post, and MindBodyGreen.
When I’m not helping women navigate sperm or egg banks, or single motherhood, you can find me wearing a pretend fire hat as my son directs me in the latest rescue. When my son gives me a break, you can find me walking my two 70-pound dogs, cooking up a delectable stew in my kitchen, having impromptu dance parties with my son, or singing along to the radio.
- Certified Integral Coach (New Ventures West)
- Certified Feldenkrais Method Practitioner
- Qigong Instructor
- Attorney at law
- Former patient’s rights advocate
- Certified Post Partum Doula (Cornerstone Doula Trainings)
- Certified Child Birth Educator (Cornerstone Method)
How I Got Here
My journey to motherhood was nothing what I envisioned as a little girl. I assumed I’d have a partner and many genetically related children. But with no partner in sight in my early 40’s, I made the decision to become a Single Mom by Choice, only to learn that I would need to use an egg donor in order to conceive.
I agonized about using an egg donor to conceive my child as a single mom. But now that my son is born, I realize it was the best decision I ever made.
In order to get here I’ve had to reimagine what I thought it meant to be a mother. Yet, every day, I’m surprised and amazed by the unexpected benefits of being a single mom who bears no genetic relationship to my son.
Through this work, I’ve been able express my life long passion for health, in the broadest sense of the word, and issues facing women and children. It started as an undergraduate at UC Berkeley where I received a B.A. in Medical Anthropology and led me to law school at Santa Clara University to study women’s reproductive rights and bioethics.
I didn’t last long as a practicing attorney, but my passion for issues surrounding women’s bodies and reproduction has never ceased. For the past 10 years, I’ve immersed myself in mind/body practices becoming a Feldenkrais Practitioner, Qigong Instructor, and Life Coach.
My unique blend of training and experience brings me to where I’m at today—living and breathing new concepts of motherhood and traversing relatively uncharted territory of advanced reproductive technologies and unconventional family structures.
"My passion for issues surrounding women's bodies and reproduction has never ceased."
How I Can Help You
Have you dreamed of being a mother from a young age or just recently felt the urge to bring new life into this world? Maybe you are considering becoming a single mom by choice, or needing to use unconventional means to get pregnant such as IVF, egg donation or adoption.
Regardless, you may be finding that your current options are not matching up with what you always envisioned about how you would become a mother. It may be causing disappointment, doubt and overwhelm.
I know firsthand the challenges of choosing single motherhood, conceiving with donors and now single motherhood.
I help women to cultivate the love, courage and tenacity it takes to conceive and raise a child through unconventional means.
I can support you through the various emotions, the overwhelming amount of information and options. Together we can rethink your concepts of what’s possible so that you can become the mother you yearn to be.
Ready to Start?Contact me now to take action towards your journey.
Read More on My Blog
If you’ve decided to move forward as a single mom by choice, a lesbian couple or otherwise in need of a sperm donor, there comes a time when you need to pick a sperm donor. For most people they’ve never done anything like it. You’re choosing the person to provide half the genetic material for…Read More
So, you think you want to be a single mom via sperm donation, and you’ve made an appointment to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist or fertility doctor. You may have waited months to see this doctor so you want to be as prepared as possible for the appointment. The first step is getting clear about your…Read More
Why I Chose Donor Egg IVF in Mexico I shut my computer screen and took a deep breath. After months of stress, I finally had a sense of calm. I had just watched a video of the doctor at a fertility clinic in Cancun, Mexico being interviewed about Donor Egg IVF in Mexico. While it…Read More
It’s the moment you’ve been anticipating–the day you get to bring your baby home. All your the time spent trying to get pregnant or adopt and become a mom is finally approaching–but you’re terrified about being at home as a single mom to a newborn. For any mom, coming home from the hospital can be…Read More
When I was choosing my sperm donor, I naively assumed that the sperm bank policies would be roughly the same across all banks. I got a few recommendations about what sperm banks other people had used and chose the one that had the most useful information about the specific donors. I did not, however, spend…Read More
Your heart might stop a few times–then be warmed by the sweet connections. One things for sure, you will be fascinated and better educated after reading Scattered Seeds: In Search of Family and Identity in the Sperm Donor Generation. Author, Jacqueline Mroz has done a wonderful job highlighting the issues with the lack of regulation…Read More
I feel at the same time, very cynical about companies paying their employees money to freeze their eggs so they can put off starting a family and thrilled that this technology is available to provide more opportunities for women. I was one of those women who after putting my career first, just couldn’t seem to…Read More
A story of personal triumph, unconditional love and the lengths one will go to experience motherhood At the age of thirty-nine, Sarah Kowalski began to realize time was running out of time to have a baby. After grappling with what it meant to have a baby alone, she eventually realized that she’d always wanted a…Read More
Decision-making is stressful—from the small, seemingly insignificant decisions to the big ones, such as do I want to have a baby alone, or am I ready to use an egg donor or adopt? As a Single Mom, when your child comes along, you are forced to make all parenting decisions alone, such as who to…Read More
It’s National Infertility Awareness Week. Here’s my infertility story and how I became a mother via egg donation. #NIAW #ListenUp Throughout my life I was led to believe it was no big deal to conceive a baby in my forties. Back then, when people asked me (as they so often do ask women in their…Read More
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