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Motherhood Reimagined: When Becoming A Mother Doesn't Go As Planned
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At the age of thirty-nine, Sarah Kowalski heard her biological clock ticking, loudly. A single woman harboring a deep ambivalence about motherhood, Kowalski needed to decide: Did she want a baby? More importantly, with no partner in sight, did she want to have a baby alone? Once she revised her idea of motherhood—from an experience she would share with a partner to a journey she would embark upon alone—the answer came up a resounding Yes. Kowalski chose to conceive using a sperm donor, but her plan stopped short when a doctor declared her infertile. How far would she go to become a mother? Kowalski catapulted herself into a diligent regimen of herbs, Qigong, meditation, acupuncture and more, in a quest to improve her fertility Along the way, she delved into spiritual healing practices, facing down demons of self-doubt and self-hatred, and once again revising her vision of motherhood. In the end, to become a mother, Kowalski did everything she said she would never do. And yet, she wouldn't change a thing.
A story of personal triumph and unconditional love, Motherhood Reimagined reveals what happens when we release what's expected and embrace what's possible.
Sarah’s honest and informative memoir examines the issues facing both single moms by choice and any woman facing fertility issues and third party reproduction. She offers a personal narrative that speaks for a generation of women who, like the author, thought she had time to have a baby well into her forties and a growing number of women who will not let the lack of a partner stand in the way of having a child. Sarah takes us on her journey in which she examines her choices and surrenders to a completely different vision of motherhood than she had ever imagined, showing us how love prevails.
Her book answers many questions such as: Why would someone decide to have a baby alone? How does one come to terms with not having a genetic link to her child? How can infertility be a means for personal growth and spiritual awakening?
The Motherhood Reimagined Podcast
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Debra Jacobs, a fellow single mom by choice and a financial coach. The question I get asked more than most is “how do I know I can afford to be a single mom by choice? So, that’s exactly what Debra and I talked about. There’s no magic bullet,…Read More
Before I had my son, I worried a lot about dating as a single mom by choice. Would I ever have time to go out and meet new people? Would my single-mom status be a total turnoff to men? What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? These are all…Read More
When Should You Take The Leap To Be A Single Mother By Choice? If you’re anything like me, you grew up believing you’d eventually meet Prince (or Princess) Charming, make beautiful babies together, and live happily ever after. But if your Prince Charming is taking his sweet time, you might be wondering if it’s time…Read More
Calling Forward The Qualities You Want To Use To Approach Your 2021 Vision As we emerge into 2021, many of us will be looking at what we want to cultivate, center around, and call forward in 2021. For many that means setting New Year’s Resolutions…right? Well, the thing about resolutions is that they often carry…Read More
How These 10 SMC’s Talk to Their Children About Being Donor-Conceived If you’re contemplating becoming a single my by choice (SMC), it’s normal to worry about what it will be like to explain their are donor-conceived using a sperm donor and in some cases an egg donor as well. The latest research suggests that being…Read More
Single moms by choice deserve support just like any other person. That’s why I couldn’t believe it when someone close to me told me, “You can’t expect support because you decided to have a kid on your own.” And, they made clear, that meant I shouldn’t ask or expect emotional, financial, or logistical support. In…Read More
Happy Mother’s Day single moms and single moms-to-be! To all of you hard-working, amazing solo moms wearing 16 different hats trying to keep you and your kids afloat during quarantine, or desperately wishing to be moms, I see you! I think being a single mom in quarantine is the biggest test of single motherhood I’ve…Read More
Birth Prep for Solo Pregnant Mamas Have you been thinking about the day you will give birth? I’m sure it’s mixed with excitement and trepidation. Being a single mom about to give birth isn’t easy. But you are strong and will make it through. Yet, there are some things to consider when you are…Read More
When you are trying to conceive (TTC) it’s hard to manage the constant cycle of hope and despair. You want to stay positive while trying but then it’s crushing when you get a negative. It’s easy to get deflated, lose energy to keep going or simply feel tender and hurt. The ups and downs are…Read More
Mindset Shifts–How To Make Difficult Choices (Like Becoming A Single Mother by Choice) Feel Positive Do you ever wish you could shift your mindset and make becoming a single mom by choice feel like an empowered choice? When I talk to many women who are trying to decide whether to take the leap to single…Read More
- The Truth About Infertility for Women Over 40 --One Woman's Messy Path To Motherhood via Egg Donation: Harper's Bazaar: Sarah Kowalski
- Maximum Fun: One Bad Mother Podcast Episode 223: Featuring Sarah Kowalski, Fertility Doula at 42:00 min. mark.
- MindBodyGreen.com Feature. An Infertility Diagnosis Didn't Stop Her: Here's How This Single Mom Got Pregnant With Her Son At 42
- Scary Mommy: Don’t Tell Me How To Have A Baby At My Age
- PopSugar: How To Survive Pregnancy As A Single Mom
- BuzzFeed: Inspirational Memoirs for Moms
- The Culturalist: Top 10 Memoirs For Moms
- Red Tricycle: These Are The 6 Reasons I Love Being An Older Mom
- Sparks Content: Warrior Issue. Roundup of Fall Memoirs for Fierce Females
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