Several years ago, my fortieth birthday fast approaching, I forced myself to ask whether I wanted to have a kid even though I didn’t yet have a partner.  I knew my fertility window was closing and Mr. Right was decidedly absent. But I worried about whether I would be happy as a single mom.  And…

Stacy tried for 8 years to have a baby. “Infertility is such a dark tunnel and it’s really really easy to get sucked up into that dark tunnel.” –Stacy After trying with her own eggs, Stacy had to get really clear about why she wanted to have a baby. Specifically she had to decide whether…

When is it the right time to have a baby? Many women who are considering having a baby alone, want to know when they will be ready to have a baby alone?  When should they move forward and do it alone?  The honest answer is probably never. And, you’ll never know if you were ready…

One of the most common concerns people bring up to me is who and how to tell other people about their child’s donor conception. It most regularly comes up for me when I’m talking to women about the use of an egg donor, but it’s relevant for anyone who’s used a sperm donor, adopted or…

What do you do when you really want something, but you’re not sure you can pull it off? Like those big, bold life choices, should you become a single mother by choice, quit your job or travel the world with your child? Do you get put off by the enormity of the decision, feeling like…

If you’ve decided to move forward as a single mom by choice, a lesbian couple or otherwise in need of a sperm donor, there comes a time when you need to pick a sperm donor. For most people they’ve never done anything like it. You’re choosing the person to provide half the genetic material for…

So, you think you want to be a single mom via sperm donation, and you’ve made an appointment to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist or fertility doctor. You may have waited months to see this doctor so you want to be as prepared as possible for the appointment. The first step is getting clear about your…

Why I Chose Donor Egg IVF in Mexico I shut my computer screen and took a deep breath. After months of stress, I finally had a sense of calm. I had just watched a video of the doctor at a fertility clinic in Cancun, Mexico being interviewed about Donor Egg IVF in Mexico. While it…

It’s the moment you’ve been anticipating–the day you get to bring your baby home.  All your the time spent trying to get pregnant or adopt and become a mom is finally approaching–but you’re terrified about being at home as a single mom to a newborn. For any mom, coming home from the hospital can be…

When I was choosing my sperm donor, I naively assumed that the sperm bank policies would be roughly the same across all banks. I got a few recommendations about what sperm banks other people had used and chose the one that had the most useful information about the specific donors. I did not, however, spend…