Commit to a Mantra, Not A Resolution

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Calling Forward The Qualities You Want To Use To Approach Your 2021 Vision As we emerge into 2021, many of us will be looking at what we want to cultivate, center around, and call forward in 2021.  For many that means setting New Year’s Resolutions…right? Well, the thing about resolutions is that they often carry…

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Coping With Hope And Despair When TTC

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When you are trying to conceive (TTC) it’s hard to manage the constant cycle of hope and despair. You want to stay positive while trying but then it’s crushing when you get a negative. It’s easy to get deflated, lose energy to keep going or simply feel tender and hurt. The ups and downs are…

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How to Pick a Sperm Donor

How to pick a sperm donor

If you’ve decided to move forward as a single mom by choice, a lesbian couple or otherwise in need of a sperm donor, there comes a time when you need to pick a sperm donor. For most people they’ve never done anything like it. You’re choosing the person to provide half the genetic material for…

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Preparing to Visit A Fertility Doctor

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So, you think you want to be a single mom via sperm donation, and you’ve made an appointment to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist or fertility doctor. You may have waited months to see this doctor so you want to be as prepared as possible for the appointment. The first step is getting clear about your…

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My Infertility Story — How I Got The Baby I Was Meant To Have

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It’s National Infertility Awareness Week. Here’s my infertility story and how I became a mother via egg donation.  #NIAW #ListenUp Throughout my life I was led to believe it was no big deal to conceive a baby in my forties. Back then, when people asked me (as they so often do ask women in their…

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Single, 42 and Infertile But I Still Gave Birth To My Baby

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As a child, I was obsessed with babies. If anyone asked me if I wanted kids when I grew up, I would exuberantly respond that I wanted eleven babies (I know, right? Eleven??). I distinctly remember stalking a pregnant mother in my neighborhood, asking if I could care for her child once it was born.…

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My 2017 Promises to YOU!

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This year, my hope is that you will learn everything I know about becoming a single mom by choice, fertility issues, and using a sperm donor and egg donor to conceive. But even more, I hope it inspires you to take whatever path to motherhood (or not) that feels right. As you may know, my…

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Infertility Made Me Stronger

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Infertility made me stronger–it’s true.  When I first learned I was infertile I would have never guessed that it would fundamentally change me for the better. After several years of hemming and hawing, I had only just come to terms with having a baby solo.  I didn’t have a partner yet, so it was time…

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6 Reasons You Didn’t Even Realize That You Need A ‘Fertility Doula’

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Singles and couples struggling with infertility need support too. If you’ve ever tried to get pregnant when anything other than good old fashioned sex is involved, you know it can be confusing and taxing. A fertility doula can help. Both singles and couples who need to use artificial insemination, IVF, or a sperm donor, egg…

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