How I Came To Terms With Using An Egg Donor: 8 Salient Moments

how I came to terms with using an egg donor

How I came to terms with using an egg donor Giving up on your own biological genes to have a baby using egg donation can be a huge step. It can feel overwhelming and downright tragic. Here are some of the ways how I came to terms with using an egg donor. From my experience, I…

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How These 10 SMC’s Talk to Their Children About Being Donor-Conceived

SMC discuss donor-conceived

How These 10 SMC’s Talk to Their Children About Being Donor-Conceived  If you’re contemplating becoming a single my by choice (SMC), it’s normal to worry about what it will be like to explain their are donor-conceived using a sperm donor and in some cases an egg donor as well. The latest research suggests that being…

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Single Mama Bear Takes on Father’s Day

Single Mama Bear Takes on Father’s Day

Recently, I’ve been noticing that my 5-year-old son is going through a new phase in his processing that we are a mom-and-kid family—there is no dad in the picture since I used a sperm donor (often referred to as a single mom by choice). I know he’s processing because I’ve been getting reports from school…

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Planning Who and What To Tell About Your Child’s Donor Conception

Donor conception, how to talk to your child about donor conception

One of the most common concerns people bring up to me is who and how to tell other people about their child’s donor conception. It most regularly comes up for me when I’m talking to women about the use of an egg donor, but it’s relevant for anyone who’s used a sperm donor, adopted or…

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How to Pick a Sperm Donor

How to pick a sperm donor

If you’ve decided to move forward as a single mom by choice, a lesbian couple or otherwise in need of a sperm donor, there comes a time when you need to pick a sperm donor. For most people they’ve never done anything like it. You’re choosing the person to provide half the genetic material for…

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Preparing to Visit A Fertility Doctor

visiting a fertility doctor as a single woman

So, you think you want to be a single mom via sperm donation, and you’ve made an appointment to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist or fertility doctor. You may have waited months to see this doctor so you want to be as prepared as possible for the appointment. The first step is getting clear about your…

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Choosing A Sperm Bank? Overview of Sperm Bank Policies

sperm bank policies, how to chose a sperm bank

When I was choosing my sperm donor, I naively assumed that the sperm bank policies would be roughly the same across all banks. I didn’t think at all about how to chose the sperm bank. I was just looking for what seemed like the best donor. I got a few recommendations about what sperm banks…

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Scattered Seeds: In Search of Family and Identity in the Sperm Donor Generation

Scattered Seeds In search of family identity sperm donor generation

Your heart might stop a few times–then be warmed by the sweet connections.  One things for sure, you will be fascinated and better educated after reading Scattered Seeds: In Search of Family and Identity in the Sperm Donor Generation. Author, Jacqueline Mroz has done a wonderful job highlighting the issues with the lack of regulation…

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Do I Wish I Had Frozen My Eggs?

should I freeze my eggs? pros and cons of egg freezing

I feel at the same time, very cynical about companies paying their employees money to freeze their eggs so they can put off starting a family and thrilled that this technology is available to provide more opportunities for women. I was one of those women who after putting my career first, just couldn’t seem to…

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