Single mom by Choice
Is Now the Right Time to Have a Baby?
When is it the right time to have a baby? Many women who are considering having a baby alone, want to know when they will be ready to have a baby alone? When should they move forward and do it alone? The honest answer is probably never. And, you’ll never know if you were ready…
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Planning Who and What To Tell About Your Child’s Donor Conception
One of the most common concerns people bring up to me is who and how to tell other people about their child’s donor conception. It most regularly comes up for me when I’m talking to women about the use of an egg donor, but it’s relevant for anyone who’s used a sperm donor, adopted or…
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Making Bold Life Choices
What do you do when you really want something, but you’re not sure you can pull it off? Like those big, bold life choices, should you become a single mother by choice, quit your job or travel the world with your child? Do you get put off by the enormity of the decision, feeling like…
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How to Pick a Sperm Donor
If you’ve decided to move forward as a single mom by choice, a lesbian couple or otherwise in need of a sperm donor, there comes a time when you need to pick a sperm donor. For most people they’ve never done anything like it. You’re choosing the person to provide half the genetic material for…
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Preparing to Visit A Fertility Doctor
So, you think you want to be a single mom via sperm donation, and you’ve made an appointment to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist or fertility doctor. You may have waited months to see this doctor so you want to be as prepared as possible for the appointment. The first step is getting clear about your…
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Gathering Support For A Newborn As A Single Mom
It’s the moment you’ve been anticipating–the day you get to bring your baby home. All your the time spent trying to get pregnant or adopt and become a mom is finally approaching–but you’re terrified about being at home as a single mom to a newborn. For any mom, coming home from the hospital can be…
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Choosing A Sperm Bank? Overview of Sperm Bank Policies
When I was choosing my sperm donor, I naively assumed that the sperm bank policies would be roughly the same across all banks. I didn’t think at all about how to chose the sperm bank. I was just looking for what seemed like the best donor. I got a few recommendations about what sperm banks…
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Do I Wish I Had Frozen My Eggs?
I feel at the same time, very cynical about companies paying their employees money to freeze their eggs so they can put off starting a family and thrilled that this technology is available to provide more opportunities for women. I was one of those women who after putting my career first, just couldn’t seem to…
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Break the Decision-Making Spiral
Decision-making is stressful—from the small, seemingly insignificant decisions to the big ones, such as do I want to have a baby alone, or am I ready to use an egg donor or adopt? As a Single Mom, when your child comes along, you are forced to make all parenting decisions alone, such as who to…
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Single, 42 and Infertile But I Still Gave Birth To My Baby
As a child, I was obsessed with babies. If anyone asked me if I wanted kids when I grew up, I would exuberantly respond that I wanted eleven babies (I know, right? Eleven??). I distinctly remember stalking a pregnant mother in my neighborhood, asking if I could care for her child once it was born.…
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