Posts by sarahkowalski@gmail.com
6 Archetypes for Choosing a Sperm Donor
Women ask me all the time, “How should I pick a sperm donor (or egg donor)?” For many it can be one of the most daunting parts of becoming a single mom by choice. After all, picking a donor to provide half of the genes of your child is very significant. Many women contemplate a…
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From Frazzled To Grounded : How A Lack Of Time Has Made Me Rock Solid
Someone recently asked me how motherhood has affected my creativity. Because I am publishing a memoir about my journey to solo motherhood and building a related coaching practice, motherhood is literally the fruit and source of my creativity. But the most surprising outcome of being a Solo Mom is that I’m incredibly grounded and centered,…
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An Ode To The Exhausted Single Mom: 7 Reasons You’re a BadA$$
We all know, being a single mom is hard! There’s rarely a break and the weight of the world falls squarely on your shoulders. When I had my baby as a single mom by choice (meaning I used a sperm donor to proactively get pregnant alone), I got a ride home from the hospital from some friends,…
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Donor Egg Balancing Act: When To Pursue Fertility Treatments Or Move To Egg Donation
“You are infertile. To get pregnant, you will most likely need to use an egg donor.” These were the words my Reproductive Endocrinologist uttered before I had even started trying to get pregnant as a single mother by choice with the use of a sperm donor, at the ‘advanced maternal age’ of 41. “I cannot…
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Fresh Vs Frozen Eggs for Egg Donation Cycles
Once you get to the decision to use an egg donor, you may already feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the process. It doesn’t help that you need to now decide how you want to approach egg donation. But one of the first decisions you will likely need to make is whether to use Fresh or…
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Should My Friend Be My Sperm Donor?
The Legal And Emotional Considerations Of Selecting A Friend As Your Sperm Donor So you want to use your friend as your known sperm donor? Most women I speak to about becoming a Solo Mom contemplate the use of a known sperm (or egg) donor at some point. I did. The reasons vary but usually…
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Natural Approaches to Improve Fertility
Balancing complementary and alternative medicine with Western Medicine When I decided to get pregnant as a Solo Mom, I was told by my reproductive endocrinologist that my chances of conception with my own eggs were infinitesimally small. Yet I believed that if anyone could beat the odds, it would be me. I was a firm…
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My Son is HERE! 100% Donor Baby
I gave birth to my son on April 3rd, 2014. He is simply perfect! I can’t imagine mothering any other baby. There is no way to explain how much he truly feels like 100% my child. But he doesn’t actually share any genetic material with me. I had to use an egg donor to conceive. Because…
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5 Questions To Ask Before You Give Up On Marriage and Having A BABY Alone
Have you always dreamed of being a mother but find yourself single? Many women I talk to have a clear plan—if they are not married or in a relationship by birthday X, they are going to use a sperm donor, get pregnant, having a baby alone. For others like myself, the question of whether to…
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Who’s My Daddy? : Talking To Our Children About Their Donor Father
Many Solo Moms live in absolute fear of a certain question: “Who’s my daddy?” It brings strong, resolute women to tears in an instant. Maybe it’s because it seems to come out in such strange and unsettling ways. I read about a sperm-donor-conceived child who told his mom that he did not have a dad…
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