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Single, 42 and Infertile But I Still Gave Birth To My Baby

As a child, I was obsessed with babies. If anyone asked me if I wanted kids when I grew up, I would exuberantly respond that I wanted eleven babies (I know, right? Eleven??). I distinctly remember stalking a pregnant mother in my neighborhood, asking if I could care for her child once it was born.…

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dating as single mom

How Being A Single Mom Makes You Better At Dating

Being a Single Mom can be lonely at times and make you yearn for a partner. To make matters worse dating as a Single Mom can feel like an uphill batter against an endless shortage of time, money and energy. My son is still young, and I can barely fathom dating. And, yet, I see…

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Teaching Love Through Imitation

When I proactively chose to become a Solo Mom, I knew parenting would become my spiritual practice. We know that children learn more from imitation than from what we actually tell them.

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My 2017 Promises to YOU!

This year, my hope is that you will learn everything I know about becoming a single mom by choice, fertility issues, and using a sperm donor and egg donor to conceive. But even more, I hope it inspires you to take whatever path to motherhood (or not) that feels right. As you may know, my…

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Infertility Made Me Stronger

Infertility made me stronger–it’s true.  When I first learned I was infertile I would have never guessed that it would fundamentally change me for the better. After several years of hemming and hawing, I had only just come to terms with having a baby solo.  I didn’t have a partner yet, so it was time…

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How the Donor Origins Conversation Is Really Going With My Son — I Never Expected This!

When I decided to use donor sperm and egg to conceive my child, I never anticipated the way in which the donor origins conversation would played out with my son. I did my research about how to talk to my child about his donor origins. I wasn’t nervous or anxious about broaching the topic with…

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how do I choose a sperm donor?

How Did I Choose My Sperm Donor

How did I choose my sperm donor in a way that uniquely matched my personality and priorities.

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what is a fertility doula?

6 Reasons You Didn’t Even Realize That You Need A ‘Fertility Doula’

Singles and couples struggling with infertility need support too. If you’ve ever tried to get pregnant when anything other than good old fashioned sex is involved, you know it can be confusing and taxing. A fertility doula can help. Both singles and couples who need to use artificial insemination, IVF, or a sperm donor, egg…

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How should I choose a sperm donor or egg donor?

6 Archetypes for Choosing a Sperm Donor

Women ask me all the time, “How should I pick a sperm donor (or egg donor)?” For many it can be one of the most daunting parts of becoming a single mom by choice. After all, picking a donor to provide half of the genes of your child is very significant. Many women contemplate a…

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