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Sarah kowalski smc coach

My 2017 Promises to YOU!

This year, my hope is that you will learn everything I know about becoming a single mom by choice, fertility issues, and using a sperm donor and egg donor to conceive. But even more, I hope it inspires you to take whatever path to motherhood (or not) that feels right. As you may know, my…

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infertility made me stronger, better mother

Infertility Made Me Stronger

Infertility made me stronger–it’s true.  When I first learned I was infertile I would have never guessed that it would fundamentally change me for the better. After several years of hemming and hawing, I had only just come to terms with having a baby solo.  I didn’t have a partner yet, so it was time…

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donor origins conversation

How the Donor Origins Conversation Is Really Going With My Son — I Never Expected This!

When I decided to use donor sperm and egg to conceive my child, I never anticipated the way in which the donor origins conversation would played out with my son. I did my research about how to talk to my child about his donor origins. I wasn’t nervous or anxious about broaching the topic with…

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how do I choose a sperm donor?

How Did I Choose My Sperm Donor

How did I choose my sperm donor in a way that uniquely matched my personality and priorities.

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what is a fertility doula?

6 Reasons You Didn’t Even Realize That You Need A ‘Fertility Doula’

Singles and couples struggling with infertility need support too. If you’ve ever tried to get pregnant when anything other than good old fashioned sex is involved, you know it can be confusing and taxing. A fertility doula can help. Both singles and couples who need to use artificial insemination, IVF, or a sperm donor, egg…

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How should I choose a sperm donor or egg donor?

6 Archetypes for Choosing a Sperm Donor

Women ask me all the time, “How should I pick a sperm donor (or egg donor)?” For many it can be one of the most daunting parts of becoming a single mom by choice. After all, picking a donor to provide half of the genes of your child is very significant. Many women contemplate a…

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decision-making single mother by choice

From Frazzled To Grounded : How A Lack Of Time Has Made Me Rock Solid

Someone recently asked me how motherhood has affected my creativity. Because I am publishing a memoir about my journey to solo motherhood and building a related coaching practice, motherhood is literally the fruit and source of my creativity. But the most surprising outcome of being a Solo Mom is that I’m incredibly grounded and centered,…

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exhausted single mom or choice mom, lack of sleep

An Ode To The Exhausted Single Mom: 7 Reasons You’re a BadA$$

We all know, being a single mom is hard! There’s rarely a break and the weight of the world falls squarely on your shoulders. When I had my baby as a single mom by choice (meaning I used a sperm donor to proactively get pregnant alone), I got a ride home from the hospital from some friends,…

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when to use an egg donor, egg donation or donor eggs instead of pursuing fertility treatments

Donor Egg Balancing Act: When To Pursue Fertility Treatments Or Move To Egg Donation

“You are infertile. To get pregnant, you will most likely need to use an egg donor.” These were the words my Reproductive Endocrinologist uttered before I had even started trying to get pregnant as a single mother by choice with the use of a sperm donor, at the ‘advanced maternal age’ of 41. “I cannot…

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